I remember daily that forgiveness is a choice.
Forgiveness is freedom.
Firstly, it’s not just a sentence you tell yourself. It’s not just once a feeling you feel. You must believe that you are now responsible for your life. No one is responsible for your life other than you are. I accept this.
Secondly, I observe my thinking and behavioral patterns. What comes from my parents? How do I act in my relationships where I mirror my parents? As a guy, where do I mirror my dad and assume how he made a woman feel (my mom)?
Thirdly, as part of my daily practice, I remind myself that I forgive my parents and anyone who ever hurt me. It’s a deep introspection for a minute or two every day to forgive and heal wounds.
Fourthly, tell yourself that you love yourself. You’re perfect the way you are. You don’t need to proof anything to others. Only proof it to yourself. Stay in line with your values. With your true self. Don’t look for permission from your parents and your partner anymore. Go after your true self. Your dreams. Your ambitions. Your life.
Life is beautiful.