Appreciating gifts without feeling guilty, weak, or vulnerable is the art of receiving and giving.
Jessie just massaged my knee. It was so nice, yet I had a hard time receiving as I was thinking about something else. Why is that I have a hard time appreciating things people to for me?
Why do I have a hard time asking for help?
My short answer is my behavioral thought patterns, also called EGO.
Whenever I am not observant, trying to play superman, my life is so much more difficult than it could be.
One of my best friends believes that all will be equalized.
And I agree. I feel so thankful for my friends.
Another one invited me countless times for dinner and beers throughout my entrepreneurial journey. He knew I didn’t have much and so he supported me as his friend!
Appreciating gifts without feeling guilty, weak, or vulnerable is a true art. It’s the art of receiving and giving.
That’s what I re-learned recently.
When receiving, I aim for taking it with all my love and appreciation. I observe my thoughts and stop feeling weak or vulnerable. I embrace the feeling of receiving because I know I earned it.
As a result, I never feel bad anymore. And have an easier time asking for time.
And boy, are people willing to help when I ask them.
So, I allow myself to receive. And appreciate compliments and other nice things by saying thank you in person, hand-write a short note or give a loving hug.
A loving hug
That’s what I did at my first burning man. I didn’t bring material gifts as so many other burners did. It’s part of the Burning Man spirit to allow indefinite self-expression. So, you are supposed to bring and share gifts.
At first, I felt bad receiving because I didn’t bring anything. I wasn’t well prepared. At some point, I decided to receive openly and I discovered that people get most pleasure when you receive with an open heart. Being present and not thinking about how you can give back. The interaction is you receiving and the other person giving.
At some point, I decided to receive openly and I discovered that people get the most pleasure out of giving when you receive with an open heart. Being present and not thinking about how you can give back. The interaction is you receiving and the other person giving.
The interaction then is you receiving and the other person giving.
What Burning Man taught me is that usualy we are taught to equalize every interaction. You get. You give. Equally.
It is ok though to just receive or just give (without receiving).
Giving can be non-materistic
If you give and expect to receive, it’s not unconditional giving. If you receive and expect to give back, it’s not unconditional receiving.
The way out is to be present. Appreciate a gift fully. Give a gift without expectations.
And one more remarkable thing happened at my first Burn. As I understood this more deeply, I gifted presence with every interaction I had. I listened deeply. And I gifted hugs with
As I understood this more deeply, I gifted presence with every interaction I had. I listened deeply. And I gifted hugs heartfully. Deeply alive. Touching outer people’s souls. I united us with a deep hug.
I discovered that presence and love are the greatest gifts you can give – at least compared to material gifts.
At that point, I didn’t feel bad of not giving material things because I found something so much more powerful to give. Love and presence.
Be happy. Love, Danny